pawys1111
Does any one know where i can buy a harness for my five yr old for when we are in busy places.
I got one of the monkey backpack ones but just takes it off when he wants too.
Thanks
I dont see how putting him in a stroller will help him to learn to walk next to me.
And i dont beleive there is anything wrong with using a harness i like to keep my child safe thank you. With two children the harness was the best thing i have ever used it keeps him safe i know where he is and he likes it too. Just that he can take it off when he feels like it is the problem.
There like a seat belt in a car you might not need it but one day you will and can save his life.
Thanks for your comments and links but i think the ones shown are ment for smallet children and with the chest clip at the front he can still see it to undo it. And some are just velcro i can see that lasting 5 mins. I was hoping for something at the back of him.
I cant beleive people say becuase a child has a harness there treated like a animal. There a child they are still learning right from wrong do and dont.
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I use harnesses but I don't like them. I have to use them because I have a seizure disorder and I don't want them running off if I have a seizure (yes the thought of them being tethered to their seizing mother haunts me). The problem with getting a better harness is that you make a better escape artist. I saw a really good one at Toys R Us with a chest clip. I would also try "Stay with me training". Taking small trips without a purpose (don't tell him that) to teach him the rules. Going to the library without the harness and if he steps out of sight, it is straight home and into time out. If he doesn't hold your hand through the parking lot, straight home and into time out. Three little trips a week and I bet the harness is just a precaution before you know it. (If he removes the harness, straight home and into time out.)
He will be going to school soon and needs to build some personal responsibility for his own safety. Make sure that you have hard fast rules that you can write down about going out in public and that the basics don't change (do not leave my side, do not talk to someone without me, do not touch anything, do not eat anything, always hold onto mom (mom's coat, the shopping cart) when in or near a road or parking lot, etc)
It is hard to do, but ultimately your FIRST job is to teach the boy to be a man. Teach the boy to protect himself, not just keep the boy protected.
I use harnesses but I don't like them. I have to use them because I have a seizure disorder and I don't want them running off if I have a seizure (yes the thought of them being tethered to their seizing mother haunts me). The problem with getting a better harness is that you make a better escape artist. I saw a really good one at Toys R Us with a chest clip. I would also try "Stay with me training". Taking small trips without a purpose (don't tell him that) to teach him the rules. Going to the library without the harness and if he steps out of sight, it is straight home and into time out. If he doesn't hold your hand through the parking lot, straight home and into time out. Three little trips a week and I bet the harness is just a precaution before you know it. (If he removes the harness, straight home and into time out.)
He will be going to school soon and needs to build some personal responsibility for his own safety. Make sure that you have hard fast rules that you can write down about going out in public and that the basics don't change (do not leave my side, do not talk to someone without me, do not touch anything, do not eat anything, always hold onto mom (mom's coat, the shopping cart) when in or near a road or parking lot, etc)
It is hard to do, but ultimately your FIRST job is to teach the boy to be a man. Teach the boy to protect himself, not just keep the boy protected.
I have a special needs child ..HELP please?
Lovelykiay
My daughter is 3 years old and has mild mental retardation. She has behavior issues that as she gets older I am unable to deal with. She throws tantrums when she doesnt get a doll or a toy.
The other day she threw herself in the middle of a walkway and refused to walk over her backpack being left in the car.
I have a 19 month old, a 2 month old and a 6 year old. She cries sometimes for hours because he didnt get a movie or to wear a certain dress. I dont know where to turn for help-she is in a half day program for special needs children and gets Speech therapy once a week in home. I need parenting classes to deal with her overwhelming tantrums and issues.
I do not believe in hitting and time out only works when we are home-I need help!
Thank you
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Discuss this with your daughter's teacher. The preschool special education teachers are fully trained and qualified to deal with behaviors which occur with this age.
The teacher can help you understand the reason for the behavior as well as help identify factors which could cause it, escalate it, and most of all, eliminate it.
The both of you can work together to identify things which are reinforcers for your daughter and perhaps some methods which are successful in managing her behaviors in the classroom can be implemented at home as well.
The most important question to remember is that all behavior is communication. And the first place to start is deciding just exactly what message is she communicating with the crying (look at all the situations) What does she gain by crying?
What is the result of the behavior? Will she eventually get what she wants by crying? Somewhere in the past the crying behavior has been reinforced; in other words," it worked before to get me what I want, so I'll keep doing it. "
Parenting classes would be a great idea and I urge you to look for them. Often, the Special Education department as well as the Parent Resource Centers in the school systems provide specific classes for parents of children with special needs. The parent resource center might also point you toward community resources which can help you and your family and provide the names of parents of students with special needs who will "mentor' parents of younger children.
Your daughter's behaviors sound "typical" to me because I have been in the field for such a long time. I know how frustrated and tired you might feel, not to mention the hassle of dealing with the responses of the general public when these situations occur. I think it is wonderful that you are seeking assistance now - I wish more parents would do the same in the early years. The very best of luck to you and your daughter.
Discuss this with your daughter's teacher. The preschool special education teachers are fully trained and qualified to deal with behaviors which occur with this age.
The teacher can help you understand the reason for the behavior as well as help identify factors which could cause it, escalate it, and most of all, eliminate it.
The both of you can work together to identify things which are reinforcers for your daughter and perhaps some methods which are successful in managing her behaviors in the classroom can be implemented at home as well.
The most important question to remember is that all behavior is communication. And the first place to start is deciding just exactly what message is she communicating with the crying (look at all the situations) What does she gain by crying?
What is the result of the behavior? Will she eventually get what she wants by crying? Somewhere in the past the crying behavior has been reinforced; in other words," it worked before to get me what I want, so I'll keep doing it. "
Parenting classes would be a great idea and I urge you to look for them. Often, the Special Education department as well as the Parent Resource Centers in the school systems provide specific classes for parents of children with special needs. The parent resource center might also point you toward community resources which can help you and your family and provide the names of parents of students with special needs who will "mentor' parents of younger children.
Your daughter's behaviors sound "typical" to me because I have been in the field for such a long time. I know how frustrated and tired you might feel, not to mention the hassle of dealing with the responses of the general public when these situations occur. I think it is wonderful that you are seeking assistance now - I wish more parents would do the same in the early years. The very best of luck to you and your daughter.
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