Pixie
Every morning seems to be a mad rush around this house, any tips you might have on streamlining this chaotic time will be much appreciated. Dressing, lunches, backpacks, breakfast, homework, grooming etc. Please help! I am one desperate mom!
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It depends on your kids. I am 13 so i'm a teenager. I don't know if all teens feel this way but as a teenager I like to either fail or succeed on my own. I know that so isn't what you wanted to hear and it drives my mum mad too. and I think alot of teens me included just want to feel like an individual, more independant we just want to see how far we can get on our own without the help of parents. I know what your thinking, thirteen's far to young to be testing those boundaries. But if you do have a young teenager give them a chance. They'll either surprise you or run back to you begging you to help them organize themselves in the morning again and admitting hole-heartedly that they still need your help. If there failing but they still insist upon doing it all themselves... well... sink or swim I suppose. Teens can sometimes be stubbourn. Kids 15 years and older need to be given the opportunity to get out of the house on there own because in a few more years they will be living on there own or will be driving themselves to school and university. So they of coarse need to know how to get out of the house on time. Children until they reach about ten will respond to a simple reward system. If they can make to the end of the week without stressing you out too much reward them with money. Or maybe after about a month you could get them take out food. But don't try this with younger kids because a monh won't make sense to them and if it does it will probably just mean a really, really, really long time. Make sure you do a chart for them to loom at. But keep it out of there reach so they can't change it as my siblings and I used to do so very often.10, 11, and 12 year olds vary a bit, I'd start treating them as teens about the time it becaomes aparent they want to be treated like adults. For me I started noticing girls towards the end of grade 5 but I only started wanting to feel more indipendent when I wasa about 12. I know that is young but theres no guarenetee your kids will start puberty that young. Infact some don't even start until after highschool (rare). But before they reach puberty just treat them like kids and keep them going on the chart system. Just remember you can put more on that chart system then just getting ready for school on time. My Mum is quite lenient. All she wants us to do is put our dirty cloths in the laundry unpack our lunch boxes in the afternoon and pack our bags in the morning. In our house every friday night we have pizza and soft-drink. So she threatened to take these things away if we couldn't do the jobs she wanted us to, it worked very well. Remember it is far more effective to take away priviledges then to add them. Because the privlidges you already have yove gotten used to. For example lets say maybe cars were never invented you wouldn't exacltly jump at the idea of getting one because you've already got your horse to ride around on. Cars would seem like an unneccissary luxury. But If you had your car taken away now thats a different story! Sorry about the lenghth but we children are very diverse and complicated. This technique may not even work on your kids the same way it did with us but even if it doesn't don't be afaraid to spread it around because it certainly worked on us!
It depends on your kids. I am 13 so i'm a teenager. I don't know if all teens feel this way but as a teenager I like to either fail or succeed on my own. I know that so isn't what you wanted to hear and it drives my mum mad too. and I think alot of teens me included just want to feel like an individual, more independant we just want to see how far we can get on our own without the help of parents. I know what your thinking, thirteen's far to young to be testing those boundaries. But if you do have a young teenager give them a chance. They'll either surprise you or run back to you begging you to help them organize themselves in the morning again and admitting hole-heartedly that they still need your help. If there failing but they still insist upon doing it all themselves... well... sink or swim I suppose. Teens can sometimes be stubbourn. Kids 15 years and older need to be given the opportunity to get out of the house on there own because in a few more years they will be living on there own or will be driving themselves to school and university. So they of coarse need to know how to get out of the house on time. Children until they reach about ten will respond to a simple reward system. If they can make to the end of the week without stressing you out too much reward them with money. Or maybe after about a month you could get them take out food. But don't try this with younger kids because a monh won't make sense to them and if it does it will probably just mean a really, really, really long time. Make sure you do a chart for them to loom at. But keep it out of there reach so they can't change it as my siblings and I used to do so very often.10, 11, and 12 year olds vary a bit, I'd start treating them as teens about the time it becaomes aparent they want to be treated like adults. For me I started noticing girls towards the end of grade 5 but I only started wanting to feel more indipendent when I wasa about 12. I know that is young but theres no guarenetee your kids will start puberty that young. Infact some don't even start until after highschool (rare). But before they reach puberty just treat them like kids and keep them going on the chart system. Just remember you can put more on that chart system then just getting ready for school on time. My Mum is quite lenient. All she wants us to do is put our dirty cloths in the laundry unpack our lunch boxes in the afternoon and pack our bags in the morning. In our house every friday night we have pizza and soft-drink. So she threatened to take these things away if we couldn't do the jobs she wanted us to, it worked very well. Remember it is far more effective to take away priviledges then to add them. Because the privlidges you already have yove gotten used to. For example lets say maybe cars were never invented you wouldn't exacltly jump at the idea of getting one because you've already got your horse to ride around on. Cars would seem like an unneccissary luxury. But If you had your car taken away now thats a different story! Sorry about the lenghth but we children are very diverse and complicated. This technique may not even work on your kids the same way it did with us but even if it doesn't don't be afaraid to spread it around because it certainly worked on us!
Halloween Horse Show: Help with my costume!?
Q. For the Halloween horse show at my Saddle Club's arena, i'm going to be a witch on a dark pegasus. My horse is a bay, but wiht black paint, i was going to put markings on her coat. Just so you know. :)
What i really need help with is the construction of her wings, and with the material used. I was thinking that i could use a black bed sheet once i get the frame done, but any other ideas will help as well.
The wings can stick out the sides, like on the below picture, or they can kind of be folded back, like on the above picture at this site -
http://www.playlist.com/user/21658600
Please look at my quick, embarassing, and wierd picture to see what i mean. =D
Oh, and the wings can either be mounted on my saddle, or if their light weight enough, i also have a bareback pad, which might fo better with the theme. Either way will work, but just so you know what i've got to work with. Thanks for taking your time to read this! And thanks for any answers! =D
What i really need help with is the construction of her wings, and with the material used. I was thinking that i could use a black bed sheet once i get the frame done, but any other ideas will help as well.
The wings can stick out the sides, like on the below picture, or they can kind of be folded back, like on the above picture at this site -
http://www.playlist.com/user/21658600
Please look at my quick, embarassing, and wierd picture to see what i mean. =D
Oh, and the wings can either be mounted on my saddle, or if their light weight enough, i also have a bareback pad, which might fo better with the theme. Either way will work, but just so you know what i've got to work with. Thanks for taking your time to read this! And thanks for any answers! =D
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There is a kids toy you can buy at Toys R Us (or some other toy store) that might actually work for you without you having to construct the wings yourself. It is a Batman toy. It is Batman's wings. The child wears the wings on his back (they strap on kind of like a backpack) and the child pulls the ripcords to expand the wings. You may be able to affix the wings to your saddle somehow.
It's called Batman Dark Knight Mega Cape and they show it on www.toysrus.com. You can put Batman in the search box on the website and it should come up.
There is a kids toy you can buy at Toys R Us (or some other toy store) that might actually work for you without you having to construct the wings yourself. It is a Batman toy. It is Batman's wings. The child wears the wings on his back (they strap on kind of like a backpack) and the child pulls the ripcords to expand the wings. You may be able to affix the wings to your saddle somehow.
It's called Batman Dark Knight Mega Cape and they show it on www.toysrus.com. You can put Batman in the search box on the website and it should come up.
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