Desi
I asked this is adolecense but i think i should ask it in a different catagory. Im about 70% sure im pregnant. Tell me, does this sound like pregnancy? Im on the pill, but my boyfriend came inside me but only a little. This happened twice. Now im naseaus and gagging out of nowhere, I have heartburn, my boyfriend thinks im moody, Im peeing a lot more, I feel extremely lightheaded sometimes, and I just think Im pregnant, like out of instinct. I took a test and it was negative but I think it was only a week maybe even less since we had that incident. I have another that im saving for next weekend and im going to use my morning pee for it. I wanna find out if im pregnant asap so i can stop taking my birth control. But what i really wanna know, is how did you guys tell your parents? Im only 18. My mom is really strict, she was mad that my cousin lost her virginity, and shes 22! My dad is a little more lean back. Do you think i can still go to college? Im a senior and this year i have a 4.25 GPA. My overall GPA last time i checked was 3.26 but that was without this years grades. I wanna be a high school math teacher. I have a millenium scholarship thats worth $10,000 and so does my boyfriend. My boyfriend also has a 4.25. My boyfriend works and he makes $9.50/hr and im on my schools dance team. How hard is it to go to school with a baby? My biggest fear is that i wont be able to do it. I want my boyfriend to go to college too. He wants to be an architect. But his family is a little bit on the poorer side, but he has 12 other siblings that are making money too. Im an only child and my parents were planning on paying for my college and my dad has a hookup for me to work at the airport for when dance team is over. Please tell me your guys's stories. Im scared and I wanna know if you guys made it and are successful and how hard it is and everything.
Abortion will never ever be an option for me. Just in case you guys are thinking I should do that
Answer
Before you tell your parents you need a plan all worked out for how to do it on your own and proof that you can do it on your own. Because the worst thing that you can possibly do is to approach them with a problem that you created without a valid solution. You don't want them to be angry at you for making their lives harder. Go see a social worker and a crisis pregnancy center to find out what benefits and help are available to you. For example if your parents insurance will not cover your prenatal visits and birth medicaid will. Get on some prenatal vitamins and drink lots of extra water, hid them in another pill bottle. In retrospect I wish that I had waited to tell my parents that I was pregnant till after the wedding. But I was older. For you because of your age, if it were not for your needed prenatal care I would wait closer to graduation and at least till you have found out how to do this. You will probably show before you are through with high-school.
I am about to graduate college and I have 3 kids. College is not a race. I do better because I am motivated to do it by my children but I also struggle with time and money. I took the military route (look into it because a lot of the girls in my platoon were single moms). Having to go to training and deploy and leave your child with family or friends is better than adoption because once your deployment is over you are back with your child. The post 9/11 GI bill will cover all your college expenses. There are special requirements for single parents going into the military. As about that in the military section of Yahoo answers.
Lightheadedness during pregnancy comes from your blood supply going to your belly instead of your head. The solution to lightheadedness is to make more blood. Some diets will help you do that better, look it up.
Look at all your options. Financially when purchasing textbooks look at borrowing, sharing, renting, buying used, buying new and buying E-books or Kindles (There is an App for kindle) before making your final purchasing decision.
When it comes to baby stuff think in basic terms.
Your baby needs to have a place to live and sleep, remain clean, dry, warm and clothed, fed and cared for. Housing, day care and health care will be your top costs. You will probably qualify for federal aid with the top costs.
Here are some internet searches to get you started. "elimination communication", "upcycled children's clothing", "The benefits for breastfeeding", "cloth diaper versus disposable", "baby needs vs. baby wants", "Breast pump reviews", "co-sleeping", "SIDS", "Epidural" and "Spinal tap" risks. "The average cost of childcare for stateX,""insurance costs for children".
I can tell you day care centers will probably require disposable diapers, (store brands cost less and doing a per diaper cost comparison between stores can save you thousands) and soft clothes that have no buttons and snaps and shoes that tie not velcro. You will not be allowed to leave the hospital without a car seat but there are a lot of organizations that will cover that for free also yard sales and craigslist are other places to look.
Your baby can stay clean without a baby bathtub, towel or baby wash clothes using just water and baking soda. Baby magazines make money by telling you that you cannot live without x,y,z's sponsor's product. You could buy a decent breastpump for $200.00 and for $300.00 you can get it with all it's accessories. Except milk storage, and a backpack to carry it in and a lunch box to keep the milk cool are things that you probably already own or can buy really, really cheap so skip the $100.00 accessories. A formal white wedding dress costs many times more for the same dress if the word wedding is involved. The same exact flowers go up in price for a wedding and down in price for a funeral. The same safety gate in the pet section triples price in the baby section. Child safety latches are cheaper and better in the hardware department under "latch".
Children are born in 3rd world countries every day that survive without the latest baby swing and wipe warmer. The more basic you go the more affordable your life will be.
Before you tell your parents you need a plan all worked out for how to do it on your own and proof that you can do it on your own. Because the worst thing that you can possibly do is to approach them with a problem that you created without a valid solution. You don't want them to be angry at you for making their lives harder. Go see a social worker and a crisis pregnancy center to find out what benefits and help are available to you. For example if your parents insurance will not cover your prenatal visits and birth medicaid will. Get on some prenatal vitamins and drink lots of extra water, hid them in another pill bottle. In retrospect I wish that I had waited to tell my parents that I was pregnant till after the wedding. But I was older. For you because of your age, if it were not for your needed prenatal care I would wait closer to graduation and at least till you have found out how to do this. You will probably show before you are through with high-school.
I am about to graduate college and I have 3 kids. College is not a race. I do better because I am motivated to do it by my children but I also struggle with time and money. I took the military route (look into it because a lot of the girls in my platoon were single moms). Having to go to training and deploy and leave your child with family or friends is better than adoption because once your deployment is over you are back with your child. The post 9/11 GI bill will cover all your college expenses. There are special requirements for single parents going into the military. As about that in the military section of Yahoo answers.
Lightheadedness during pregnancy comes from your blood supply going to your belly instead of your head. The solution to lightheadedness is to make more blood. Some diets will help you do that better, look it up.
Look at all your options. Financially when purchasing textbooks look at borrowing, sharing, renting, buying used, buying new and buying E-books or Kindles (There is an App for kindle) before making your final purchasing decision.
When it comes to baby stuff think in basic terms.
Your baby needs to have a place to live and sleep, remain clean, dry, warm and clothed, fed and cared for. Housing, day care and health care will be your top costs. You will probably qualify for federal aid with the top costs.
Here are some internet searches to get you started. "elimination communication", "upcycled children's clothing", "The benefits for breastfeeding", "cloth diaper versus disposable", "baby needs vs. baby wants", "Breast pump reviews", "co-sleeping", "SIDS", "Epidural" and "Spinal tap" risks. "The average cost of childcare for stateX,""insurance costs for children".
I can tell you day care centers will probably require disposable diapers, (store brands cost less and doing a per diaper cost comparison between stores can save you thousands) and soft clothes that have no buttons and snaps and shoes that tie not velcro. You will not be allowed to leave the hospital without a car seat but there are a lot of organizations that will cover that for free also yard sales and craigslist are other places to look.
Your baby can stay clean without a baby bathtub, towel or baby wash clothes using just water and baking soda. Baby magazines make money by telling you that you cannot live without x,y,z's sponsor's product. You could buy a decent breastpump for $200.00 and for $300.00 you can get it with all it's accessories. Except milk storage, and a backpack to carry it in and a lunch box to keep the milk cool are things that you probably already own or can buy really, really cheap so skip the $100.00 accessories. A formal white wedding dress costs many times more for the same dress if the word wedding is involved. The same exact flowers go up in price for a wedding and down in price for a funeral. The same safety gate in the pet section triples price in the baby section. Child safety latches are cheaper and better in the hardware department under "latch".
Children are born in 3rd world countries every day that survive without the latest baby swing and wipe warmer. The more basic you go the more affordable your life will be.
Double Stroller Necessary?
TLT
I have a son (pretty well behaved) who turns 3 in September. I am expecting a little girl in the beginning of October.
I was hoping to avoid using the double stroller. The storller I have will take her carseat and has a small stand on the back that my son can stand on.
I was wondering if you (or anyone you know) has kids around these ages and if you use a double stroller or not. Are you glad you choose to (or not to) purchase one?
I was thinking of maybe getting a double umbrella stroller. Do they make them? Have you tried them? Please help and keep in mind I am on a fairly small budget which is why I want to try and make a decision soon so I can save up a bit.
Answer
I was going to get one for my children, since they had about the same age spread as yours, but, about the time my second was born, my oldest decided she wanted to walk. Sure, she threw a fit about the baby having the stroller, but she would only stay in it for 5-10 minutes before she wanted to walk.
I also considered the stand-on strollers, but opted out of these as well because my oldest would outgrow them so quickly.
I ended up using my single stroller, and just kept reminding my oldest that she needed to "help me push" by holding onto the side. When the baby decided, at about 20 months, that she didn't want to ride in the stroller either, or hold my hand, for that matter, I was really glad I didn't go to the expense.
I traded the diaper bag for a backpack, attached ribbon in a loop on both straps, and now they walk with me holding on to the loops, and gave up my stroller. They are both pretty good about not letting go. For longer walks, I use a wagon, where one or the other "helps" me pull it more often than not.
I should add, though, that I am not a big mall goer, or a fitness walker. Our big trips include the zoo and the science museum, which are not nearly as crowded as the typical mall. If you do go to crowded places a lot, you may want to buy one of those backpack harnesses for your son, kinda like a leash, just to make sure he stays close and doesn't get separated for you. The kids I know who have these think they are the coolest thing, because they look just like a stuffed animal backpack.
As to your question about double umbrella strollers, they do make them, but they are really hard to find. When I was looking, they cost a pretty penny, but not as much as a typical double stroller. The reviews I read made it sound like they don't handle as well, and they might be too little for your son.
I was going to get one for my children, since they had about the same age spread as yours, but, about the time my second was born, my oldest decided she wanted to walk. Sure, she threw a fit about the baby having the stroller, but she would only stay in it for 5-10 minutes before she wanted to walk.
I also considered the stand-on strollers, but opted out of these as well because my oldest would outgrow them so quickly.
I ended up using my single stroller, and just kept reminding my oldest that she needed to "help me push" by holding onto the side. When the baby decided, at about 20 months, that she didn't want to ride in the stroller either, or hold my hand, for that matter, I was really glad I didn't go to the expense.
I traded the diaper bag for a backpack, attached ribbon in a loop on both straps, and now they walk with me holding on to the loops, and gave up my stroller. They are both pretty good about not letting go. For longer walks, I use a wagon, where one or the other "helps" me pull it more often than not.
I should add, though, that I am not a big mall goer, or a fitness walker. Our big trips include the zoo and the science museum, which are not nearly as crowded as the typical mall. If you do go to crowded places a lot, you may want to buy one of those backpack harnesses for your son, kinda like a leash, just to make sure he stays close and doesn't get separated for you. The kids I know who have these think they are the coolest thing, because they look just like a stuffed animal backpack.
As to your question about double umbrella strollers, they do make them, but they are really hard to find. When I was looking, they cost a pretty penny, but not as much as a typical double stroller. The reviews I read made it sound like they don't handle as well, and they might be too little for your son.
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