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Jillian
So my son is 8 1/2. His dad and I have been split up for 4 years and I have recently gotten full custody of him. His dad lost visitation for a while but has been gaining that back since November. He (the dad) now lives back with his parents while he gets back on his feet but by him living there- his mom (the grandma) is also there, spending just as much time with our son as the dad does.
She does anything and everything that she can for my son. She will ask him what he wants for dinner and then no matter what he says, she will make sure that's what they cook or order. It doesn't matter if its Chicken and a hamburger and fish, they will make it all. If my son brings his backpack and toys over there, she will carry his toys for him-- my rule is not to bring anything you can't carry.
The arranged days that my son goes over there are Wed overnight and one weekend day overnight and then he goes skiing with them on Thursdays. So he is now spending quite a bit of time with them.
Every time my son comes home, I feel like his manners are just gone. He doesn't clean up after himself. He doesn't say please or thank you. He holds things out or holds his hand out if he wants or doesn't want something... doesn't use his words just tries to hand it off.
His dad has asked grandma to stop coddling our son and let him be more independent but she does what she wants. It is driving me crazy! And my son gets in trouble when he comes home if he isn't using good manners and being respectful...
What can I do!?!
I know I need to talk to her but is that enough!? She hasn't cared or stopped yet in these 8+ years :(
Answer
Talk to his grandmother and talk to your son. Make sure he knows what is acceptable behavior and what you expect of him. For example my little brother, who is also around you son's age, has a friend who is spoiled rotten. Like in me and my brother the age gap between him and his older siblings is about ten years, so he is seen as the baby thus spoiled rotten. When he first started going over there I thought that my brother might pick up on his habits and expect things to just be handed to him, for instance one time my brother told his friend that he was saving up his allowance that he gets for doing small chores around the house, to buy a Lego set well his little friend told him that he shouldn't have to do that, that he should just continue to ask for it until he got it and it's stuff like that he is always telling my brother the things that he should and shouldn't have to do, but we talked to brother and he now understands that things aren't just handed to you, you have to work for them. For instance right now we have a deal going on with my brother, if he can get a 4.0 for this school year we'll buy him a new Lego set, which he is working hard for trying to raise his current grade of a 3.6. So like I said just talk to him before and after he spends time with his grandmother, so he knows how what it is you want from him and talk to your son's father too, make sure you guys are on the same page.
Oh and to that one person I dont see how she is ruining her son's life, a lot of kids grow up with divorced parents and are perfectly fine. All kids really need to while growing up is to feel safe and loved which I'm sure is how her son feels.
Talk to his grandmother and talk to your son. Make sure he knows what is acceptable behavior and what you expect of him. For example my little brother, who is also around you son's age, has a friend who is spoiled rotten. Like in me and my brother the age gap between him and his older siblings is about ten years, so he is seen as the baby thus spoiled rotten. When he first started going over there I thought that my brother might pick up on his habits and expect things to just be handed to him, for instance one time my brother told his friend that he was saving up his allowance that he gets for doing small chores around the house, to buy a Lego set well his little friend told him that he shouldn't have to do that, that he should just continue to ask for it until he got it and it's stuff like that he is always telling my brother the things that he should and shouldn't have to do, but we talked to brother and he now understands that things aren't just handed to you, you have to work for them. For instance right now we have a deal going on with my brother, if he can get a 4.0 for this school year we'll buy him a new Lego set, which he is working hard for trying to raise his current grade of a 3.6. So like I said just talk to him before and after he spends time with his grandmother, so he knows how what it is you want from him and talk to your son's father too, make sure you guys are on the same page.
Oh and to that one person I dont see how she is ruining her son's life, a lot of kids grow up with divorced parents and are perfectly fine. All kids really need to while growing up is to feel safe and loved which I'm sure is how her son feels.
What is the most common middle school fashion for girls?
caybay95
It is spring now and I don't know what to wear! Capris, pants, sandals, tank tops?! It is the beginnning of spring, about low 60's and a little breezy! What do I do?
Answer
sk83r-
Pants- skinny bullhead jeans, you can buy them at pacsun
Shirts-Famous Stars and Straps shirts, DC shirts, Etnies shirts, Billabong shirts, or any other skating shirts.
I most likely recommend CCS
Shoes- In- fallen, etnies, dc, nikes
out of style- VANS
Jackets- Any baggy jacket. Boys jackets are the best. Try shopping at " freestlye " if you have one located in your area
Preppy-
Pants- American Eagle Outfitters, their jeans are very very comfortable and will fit perfectly, or buy abercrombie skinny jeans
Shirts- any type of baby doll shirts, make sure to wear an undershirt underneath if it's too low, or else you will get teased. Aroepostale and American eagle aren't good places to shop for shirts, the collars get wrinkly and unattractive.
Shoes- In- ballet flats, sandals w/ backs, and skating shoes, believe it or not.
out of style- NEVER wear tacky high heels or any type of boots. that will give you a bad name at school.
Crocs will NEVER be even close to " koolio " so don't EVER wear them.
Jackets- Hollister, Abercrombie & Fitch, or Aroepostale
and also a " guy friend's " baggy jacket
!out of style!-
crocs!!
mudd
gap
FAMILY DOLLAR!
Lisa Frank
Go Diego Go backpacks etc.
any type of plastic shoe
In Style-
hollister co.
A&F
American Eagle
Aroepostale
Dora the explorer backpack etc.
Spongebob Squarepants accessories etc.
Fact- a lot of people in middle school think that dora the explorer and spongebob are DA BOMB.
and "boots" the monkey from dora the explorer
sk83r-
Pants- skinny bullhead jeans, you can buy them at pacsun
Shirts-Famous Stars and Straps shirts, DC shirts, Etnies shirts, Billabong shirts, or any other skating shirts.
I most likely recommend CCS
Shoes- In- fallen, etnies, dc, nikes
out of style- VANS
Jackets- Any baggy jacket. Boys jackets are the best. Try shopping at " freestlye " if you have one located in your area
Preppy-
Pants- American Eagle Outfitters, their jeans are very very comfortable and will fit perfectly, or buy abercrombie skinny jeans
Shirts- any type of baby doll shirts, make sure to wear an undershirt underneath if it's too low, or else you will get teased. Aroepostale and American eagle aren't good places to shop for shirts, the collars get wrinkly and unattractive.
Shoes- In- ballet flats, sandals w/ backs, and skating shoes, believe it or not.
out of style- NEVER wear tacky high heels or any type of boots. that will give you a bad name at school.
Crocs will NEVER be even close to " koolio " so don't EVER wear them.
Jackets- Hollister, Abercrombie & Fitch, or Aroepostale
and also a " guy friend's " baggy jacket
!out of style!-
crocs!!
mudd
gap
FAMILY DOLLAR!
Lisa Frank
Go Diego Go backpacks etc.
any type of plastic shoe
In Style-
hollister co.
A&F
American Eagle
Aroepostale
Dora the explorer backpack etc.
Spongebob Squarepants accessories etc.
Fact- a lot of people in middle school think that dora the explorer and spongebob are DA BOMB.
and "boots" the monkey from dora the explorer
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