Q. The question pretty much speaks for itself. So what is your opinion on it, and give the reason.
Mike, every child is a flight risk. Try shopping with a 3 year old by yourself.
Mike just shut up. I asked about your view on putting the kids in a harness, not bias info that you claim as facts or a rant about how you feel about other parents using them. If you feel like you are in control of your kids 100% of the time you are naive. I don't give a damn if you agree with them or not, but keep non accurate facts and hate speech to yourself.
Mike, every child is a flight risk. Try shopping with a 3 year old by yourself.
Mike just shut up. I asked about your view on putting the kids in a harness, not bias info that you claim as facts or a rant about how you feel about other parents using them. If you feel like you are in control of your kids 100% of the time you are naive. I don't give a damn if you agree with them or not, but keep non accurate facts and hate speech to yourself.
Answer
Before having kids I said "No way, that's horrible!!", now after having kids YES YES YES!!! My kids do not want to ride in a stroller, they want to be able to walk around like me and they don't want to hold hands. I would NEVER let them just walk along side me becuase there is no way you can keep your eye on them and where you're walking. No a-days with all the creeps and kidnappings going on I wouldn't risk it. Also my kids things backpacks are the coolest thing ever. They get to wear a backpack, and not hold my hand and I have super close to me and I'm still in control. It's a win win!
If any of you trust a 2 year old to know their own boundries you are a complete moran!!! Kids get constanly distracted and that's a lot of responibility to give a toddler and a HORRIBLE lack of intelligence on the parents part. So are you saying if the child doesn't listen and sneaks off and you don't notice (don't tell me it's not possible because you cannot have your eyes on more than one child at the exact time and it only takes ONE second) that it would be the childds fault because they weren't being responsible? I wouldn't use one at the park or grocery store but at a Fair or mall, YES YES YES. You are making your children easy targets by being so trusting in them. That's a personal call though, I'm doing what is best for MY family and we are all happy. I've got the happiest kids in the world and I have no worries when we go anywhere. It's people like you guys that are so trusting of toddlers and the rest of the world that wind up with missing kids. If you can handle your consequences than good for you. I can guarentee you will eat your words someday thought!
Again if you trust a 2 year old to walk beside you IDIOT! Sorry, but it's true. You cannot possibly be looking down at them at all times and be looking forward to walk, lets be honest. If you are comfortable with that good for you. I'm not, I'd rather not have someone snatch my children up! It takes ONE second for someone to grab your child and run and you're left standing there like the idiot you are. If they agree to hold your hand the entire time that's great. Mine don't. They are great kids and very adventurous, which is awesome! Clearly your children are insecure so maybe you should be concerned about that. Most 2 year olds want to run around and check things out.
@Cassy - I totally agree with not giving him his way. If he does that I will totally strap him in and let him cry it out, my problem is the stares/comments from people who don't have children. It's not really a problem for me because I know he's fine and just having a fit and I don't want to set a tone that he can "win" the battle and get his way. I got the backback/leash as a way to try and give him a taste of what it's like to walk and then I'm hoping I can teach him to stay close with it then I can work on it without. It's so hard for him to sit still and I try to do those certain activities without him anyways because I know he doens't want to sit still but sometimes I just can't. I either put the backpack on right when we get out of the car or I don't use it at all. I never let him walk, then use it as a threat or let him scream in the stroller/cart and then let him use the backpack. It's he wears it from the start and behaves or he goes in the stroller period. I just hate that some people don't get that kids throw fits! I am 5 feet tall and a tiny person so I look way younger than I am and people comment that I'm less qualified for being "young" which is not that case. I'm a fabalous mother and I'm not too young to have 2 kids. I guess my insecurites revolve around the way people view me rather than my parenting. But I will never let him have the final say even if I'm embarrased because I won't set that tone. I apprecaite your answer!
Before having kids I said "No way, that's horrible!!", now after having kids YES YES YES!!! My kids do not want to ride in a stroller, they want to be able to walk around like me and they don't want to hold hands. I would NEVER let them just walk along side me becuase there is no way you can keep your eye on them and where you're walking. No a-days with all the creeps and kidnappings going on I wouldn't risk it. Also my kids things backpacks are the coolest thing ever. They get to wear a backpack, and not hold my hand and I have super close to me and I'm still in control. It's a win win!
If any of you trust a 2 year old to know their own boundries you are a complete moran!!! Kids get constanly distracted and that's a lot of responibility to give a toddler and a HORRIBLE lack of intelligence on the parents part. So are you saying if the child doesn't listen and sneaks off and you don't notice (don't tell me it's not possible because you cannot have your eyes on more than one child at the exact time and it only takes ONE second) that it would be the childds fault because they weren't being responsible? I wouldn't use one at the park or grocery store but at a Fair or mall, YES YES YES. You are making your children easy targets by being so trusting in them. That's a personal call though, I'm doing what is best for MY family and we are all happy. I've got the happiest kids in the world and I have no worries when we go anywhere. It's people like you guys that are so trusting of toddlers and the rest of the world that wind up with missing kids. If you can handle your consequences than good for you. I can guarentee you will eat your words someday thought!
Again if you trust a 2 year old to walk beside you IDIOT! Sorry, but it's true. You cannot possibly be looking down at them at all times and be looking forward to walk, lets be honest. If you are comfortable with that good for you. I'm not, I'd rather not have someone snatch my children up! It takes ONE second for someone to grab your child and run and you're left standing there like the idiot you are. If they agree to hold your hand the entire time that's great. Mine don't. They are great kids and very adventurous, which is awesome! Clearly your children are insecure so maybe you should be concerned about that. Most 2 year olds want to run around and check things out.
@Cassy - I totally agree with not giving him his way. If he does that I will totally strap him in and let him cry it out, my problem is the stares/comments from people who don't have children. It's not really a problem for me because I know he's fine and just having a fit and I don't want to set a tone that he can "win" the battle and get his way. I got the backback/leash as a way to try and give him a taste of what it's like to walk and then I'm hoping I can teach him to stay close with it then I can work on it without. It's so hard for him to sit still and I try to do those certain activities without him anyways because I know he doens't want to sit still but sometimes I just can't. I either put the backpack on right when we get out of the car or I don't use it at all. I never let him walk, then use it as a threat or let him scream in the stroller/cart and then let him use the backpack. It's he wears it from the start and behaves or he goes in the stroller period. I just hate that some people don't get that kids throw fits! I am 5 feet tall and a tiny person so I look way younger than I am and people comment that I'm less qualified for being "young" which is not that case. I'm a fabalous mother and I'm not too young to have 2 kids. I guess my insecurites revolve around the way people view me rather than my parenting. But I will never let him have the final say even if I'm embarrased because I won't set that tone. I apprecaite your answer!
kids who are being bullied are doomed either way?
Q. Doesn't it seem like a child being bullied is doomed no matter what they do? My son is being bullied by another boy in class who calls him names and tells him he has no friends and is just plain mean to him. My son has told the teacher and then he is teased for telling and nothing happens anyway, they just tell the kid to stop. In health last week the kid told my son he has no friends. My son was upset and told the teacher and she playfully smacked the kid with the paper in her hand and laughed and said "noooo he has lots of friends"
My son has a learning disability and he has anxiety and this is the last thing he needs at school is some kid teasing him. I am confused as to what the right advice to him is, if he tells he is doomed and I don't want him to be a tattle tale for every little thing either, if he does nothing he is doomed.
I wrote to the teacher yesterday about this and asked her to move his seat since he sits right next to this kid and asked her to keep an eye out for teasing but I have not heard back yet. My son is in his first year of middle school which is 5th grade where I live. He is 11 years old.
I get mixed messages from friends, some say let him handle it he's in middle school now. Other's say I should call the parent of the kid or march over to the school and demand something be done. He hasn't done anything physical or threatened him in any way though, he is just really mean to him and calls him names, it's basically all emotional and my son was in tears yesterday telling me about the things this kid says to him.
What is the right thing to do that won't set my son up for more bullying?
so basically the advice here is I should stay out of it and tell him to just ignore it. That's a lot easier said than done when he already has confidence issues because of his learning disability and anxiety. I wouldn't do this and I know it would be wrong but I am so tempted to have my 8th grade son who is Mr. Confident and Mr. popular at school go have a little chat with this kid to defend his little brother. LOL
My son has a learning disability and he has anxiety and this is the last thing he needs at school is some kid teasing him. I am confused as to what the right advice to him is, if he tells he is doomed and I don't want him to be a tattle tale for every little thing either, if he does nothing he is doomed.
I wrote to the teacher yesterday about this and asked her to move his seat since he sits right next to this kid and asked her to keep an eye out for teasing but I have not heard back yet. My son is in his first year of middle school which is 5th grade where I live. He is 11 years old.
I get mixed messages from friends, some say let him handle it he's in middle school now. Other's say I should call the parent of the kid or march over to the school and demand something be done. He hasn't done anything physical or threatened him in any way though, he is just really mean to him and calls him names, it's basically all emotional and my son was in tears yesterday telling me about the things this kid says to him.
What is the right thing to do that won't set my son up for more bullying?
so basically the advice here is I should stay out of it and tell him to just ignore it. That's a lot easier said than done when he already has confidence issues because of his learning disability and anxiety. I wouldn't do this and I know it would be wrong but I am so tempted to have my 8th grade son who is Mr. Confident and Mr. popular at school go have a little chat with this kid to defend his little brother. LOL
Answer
we tell our kids that the older they get the more stupid and mean people they will know... we tell them that ignoring the mean kids and walking the other way is the best way to fight them.
I wouldnt have asked to have his desk moved... i would have DEMANDED it and if it wasnt done, i would have walked right into that class room and moved it myself. The school has an OBLIGATION to keep your child safe and you need to really show them that you are not kidding when you say they need to keep a better eye on your kid
My husband had an employee once who attended the local highschool. This kid was 15, over weight, had mild aspergers, spoke with a lisp, wore dirty sweat pants, lived in the projects with his disabled single mom and was named Harold, really, he was a perfect target for pretty much everything and was bullied beyond belief. But he was the sweetest most hard working kid ever, a truly great guy.
One day he showed up at work in tears... Some other students had taken his backpack and all his books and threw them onto the highway next to the school. He was really upset cause it was like his third backpack that year and he couldnt afford a new one.
My husband gave him the money to buy a new bag and replace the books. Then he did something i vonsider amazing. Everyday he and two of his cooks would walk to the school and meet up with Harold. My husband is a pretty cool looking guy and so were his cooks. They would treat Harold like one of their own. They would sit and just chill with him, sometimes they would bring out the cook's pimped out car. They made Harold into the cool guy with the cool friends with the cool car. They never knew my husband was his boss. The other students started treating him differently, they started accepting him for who he was. The highschool's own "cool kids" took him in and finally Harold could feel like he belonged.
I think you should try the same with your older siblings. See if they can hang out with your son, pick him up after school, that kind of stuff...
we tell our kids that the older they get the more stupid and mean people they will know... we tell them that ignoring the mean kids and walking the other way is the best way to fight them.
I wouldnt have asked to have his desk moved... i would have DEMANDED it and if it wasnt done, i would have walked right into that class room and moved it myself. The school has an OBLIGATION to keep your child safe and you need to really show them that you are not kidding when you say they need to keep a better eye on your kid
My husband had an employee once who attended the local highschool. This kid was 15, over weight, had mild aspergers, spoke with a lisp, wore dirty sweat pants, lived in the projects with his disabled single mom and was named Harold, really, he was a perfect target for pretty much everything and was bullied beyond belief. But he was the sweetest most hard working kid ever, a truly great guy.
One day he showed up at work in tears... Some other students had taken his backpack and all his books and threw them onto the highway next to the school. He was really upset cause it was like his third backpack that year and he couldnt afford a new one.
My husband gave him the money to buy a new bag and replace the books. Then he did something i vonsider amazing. Everyday he and two of his cooks would walk to the school and meet up with Harold. My husband is a pretty cool looking guy and so were his cooks. They would treat Harold like one of their own. They would sit and just chill with him, sometimes they would bring out the cook's pimped out car. They made Harold into the cool guy with the cool friends with the cool car. They never knew my husband was his boss. The other students started treating him differently, they started accepting him for who he was. The highschool's own "cool kids" took him in and finally Harold could feel like he belonged.
I think you should try the same with your older siblings. See if they can hang out with your son, pick him up after school, that kind of stuff...
Powered by Yahoo! Answers
Title Post: What is your view on putting kids in harnesses and on a leash?
Rating: 95% based on 981 ratings. 4,6 user reviews.
Author: Unknown
Thanks For Coming To My Blog
Rating: 95% based on 981 ratings. 4,6 user reviews.
Author: Unknown
Thanks For Coming To My Blog
No comments:
Post a Comment