Q. I am 32 years old and 8 months pregnant with my first baby. I will be raising her on my own, and want to be the best mother I can be. I have read most of the books, researched a lot online, and still have many fears.
Any words of wisdom?
Any words of wisdom?
Answer
Congratulations! It seems you have done everything I have done when I had my son (now 5 y.o.) - books didn't help much⦠only gave me the basic idea on things. I did talk to parents online, there are message boards you can participate in and get advice from other parents.
Not everything that worked for others will work for you so it's best to keep an open mind, listen to your instincts and remember to rest physically and emotionally. If you can get any help of your friends to watch the baby so you could sleep - that will help you. I am still sleep deprived, five years later :).
If you happen to feel depressed after the delivery - a little baby blues are a normal thing as your hormones change, but if you feel the "blues" don't go away and starting to develop into a depression (lasting lets' say more than a month) - you may want to see a doctor and get her advice. I did get depressed after my son was born and it's hard caring for a baby when you're not feeling like doing anything at all...
People will tell you many, MANY things. Some will push their opinion onto you and some will make suggestions. It's best to keep an open mind. The way I looked at it - if this is something that my doctor tells me and I agree with it - that's the road I am going to take. If someone tells you smth outrageous and claims it works - use common sense and your best judgement. If ever in doubt - talking to other parents or a doctor [or both] usually provides enough useful information for you to make an educated decision.
Watch your budget - being a single mom can get tough financially. If you're planning on sending your child to day care - this can get a little pricey. What I learned from it - visit different day care centers, talk to teachers and ask questions. Walk through multiple rooms and review. If anything you don't like - move on to another center. And in my experience with childcare - you get what you pay for... Same goes for private babysitters and nannies â but I personally chose against hiring a nanny for safety reasons. I heard too many stories of abuse so I trust day care centers more because there is more structure there. And the day care center will be held accountable for every bump your child gets while in their care - so you know they will make sure to follow all the rules.
There's going to be lots of trial and error situations. As they say "it will get hard before it gets better" and with newborns it's very true. But even if you catch yourself thinking: "this will never end, I'll be stuck to this baby forever with no time for me" - no, you won't be. It's true that you will be glued to this child for the first year most likely and it will be hard to find time for yourself... But it's only until the baby starts walking, talking and etc... As the times goes by you will be getting your personal time back.
I agree with someone who said this earlier â take lots of pictures!
Wishing you the best of luck!
Ok, and here is the list of things I could not live without. Links are for information only â I am in no way soliciting any particular products, this is just a list of things I had and found they did work (for me). Maybe you will find it helpful.
- Vibrating bouncer with ocean sounds
http://www.amazon.com/Fisher-Price-Ocean-Wonders-Aquarium-Bouncer/dp/B000324Y7U
- Simethicone drops (Mylicon) which I added to my son's formula or gave by mouth (he had colic and these drops did majic to him)
http://www.medicinenet.com/simethicone_drops-oral/article.htm
-Tiny Love symphony-in-motion mobile
http://www.amazon.com/Tiny-Love-Symphony-Motion-Mobile/dp/B00067ELGG/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&s=baby-products&qid=1216408151&sr=1-2
- Enfamil formula (highly recommend if you choose to use formula).
- Gap backpack instead of a regular "diaper bag". I loved it - it looks great, not like a diaper bag, very roomy inside, convenient and the best thing - you throw it on your back, pick up the baby and off you go. Very easy.
(I tried to find a link but they don't sell them anymore...It used to be in "Diaper Bags" section on Gap website...)
- Dr. Brown baby bottles. They do work.
http://www.amazon.com/Dr-Browns-Natural-Flow-Bottle/dp/B00005BYUR
- Baby Einsten videos â my son loved them all!
http://babyeinstein.com/en/
Congratulations! It seems you have done everything I have done when I had my son (now 5 y.o.) - books didn't help much⦠only gave me the basic idea on things. I did talk to parents online, there are message boards you can participate in and get advice from other parents.
Not everything that worked for others will work for you so it's best to keep an open mind, listen to your instincts and remember to rest physically and emotionally. If you can get any help of your friends to watch the baby so you could sleep - that will help you. I am still sleep deprived, five years later :).
If you happen to feel depressed after the delivery - a little baby blues are a normal thing as your hormones change, but if you feel the "blues" don't go away and starting to develop into a depression (lasting lets' say more than a month) - you may want to see a doctor and get her advice. I did get depressed after my son was born and it's hard caring for a baby when you're not feeling like doing anything at all...
People will tell you many, MANY things. Some will push their opinion onto you and some will make suggestions. It's best to keep an open mind. The way I looked at it - if this is something that my doctor tells me and I agree with it - that's the road I am going to take. If someone tells you smth outrageous and claims it works - use common sense and your best judgement. If ever in doubt - talking to other parents or a doctor [or both] usually provides enough useful information for you to make an educated decision.
Watch your budget - being a single mom can get tough financially. If you're planning on sending your child to day care - this can get a little pricey. What I learned from it - visit different day care centers, talk to teachers and ask questions. Walk through multiple rooms and review. If anything you don't like - move on to another center. And in my experience with childcare - you get what you pay for... Same goes for private babysitters and nannies â but I personally chose against hiring a nanny for safety reasons. I heard too many stories of abuse so I trust day care centers more because there is more structure there. And the day care center will be held accountable for every bump your child gets while in their care - so you know they will make sure to follow all the rules.
There's going to be lots of trial and error situations. As they say "it will get hard before it gets better" and with newborns it's very true. But even if you catch yourself thinking: "this will never end, I'll be stuck to this baby forever with no time for me" - no, you won't be. It's true that you will be glued to this child for the first year most likely and it will be hard to find time for yourself... But it's only until the baby starts walking, talking and etc... As the times goes by you will be getting your personal time back.
I agree with someone who said this earlier â take lots of pictures!
Wishing you the best of luck!
Ok, and here is the list of things I could not live without. Links are for information only â I am in no way soliciting any particular products, this is just a list of things I had and found they did work (for me). Maybe you will find it helpful.
- Vibrating bouncer with ocean sounds
http://www.amazon.com/Fisher-Price-Ocean-Wonders-Aquarium-Bouncer/dp/B000324Y7U
- Simethicone drops (Mylicon) which I added to my son's formula or gave by mouth (he had colic and these drops did majic to him)
http://www.medicinenet.com/simethicone_drops-oral/article.htm
-Tiny Love symphony-in-motion mobile
http://www.amazon.com/Tiny-Love-Symphony-Motion-Mobile/dp/B00067ELGG/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&s=baby-products&qid=1216408151&sr=1-2
- Enfamil formula (highly recommend if you choose to use formula).
- Gap backpack instead of a regular "diaper bag". I loved it - it looks great, not like a diaper bag, very roomy inside, convenient and the best thing - you throw it on your back, pick up the baby and off you go. Very easy.
(I tried to find a link but they don't sell them anymore...It used to be in "Diaper Bags" section on Gap website...)
- Dr. Brown baby bottles. They do work.
http://www.amazon.com/Dr-Browns-Natural-Flow-Bottle/dp/B00005BYUR
- Baby Einsten videos â my son loved them all!
http://babyeinstein.com/en/
i want to buy a baby stroller,i dont know what to see ?suggest me, i got a newborn baby 3 months.?
hard_remix
Answer
First of all, Congratulations on your newborn!!!
These are the criteria on getting a stroller.
Ask yourself these,
1) Are you and your partner have an active lifestyle?
Do you intend to jog around with baby in tow?
2) Do you drive?
3) Is $$$$ an issue or do you have a fixed budget to invest on a good stroller?
I'm gonna suggest something extravagant and stylish yet conventional for a couple, you can check out this website
www.quinny.com
They have the most lightweight, flexible strollers in the market.
Check out how the stroller can be folded to a size of a backpack!
Price wise...Hmm depends if you are willing to fork out some dough. One thing for sure, strollers like those from quinny will make heads turn and more space in your care once it's folded.
Personally I have Quinny Buzz for my baby. I fell in love with it
when I was just 2 months pregnant and I told my husband that Quinny Buzz is The Ultimate Transporter...
If you travel often, get yourself a travel system like the ones they have from GRACO. Check out their website,
www.gracobaby.com
They have matching carseat, 5 point harness and they are lightweight. Plus they have this big basket to put your baby's diaper bag or other stuff you wish to put in. Remember,
always think of your partner when she does her shopping alone without you, make sure she can manage to open the stroller with one hand. Choose strollers that is "one hand hold" for easier handling and that your partner can manage to close or open the stroller on her own.
Remember this pointers
1) Baby is comfortable and safe.
2) Stroller is lightweight and manageable with simple yet useful functions
3) Easy to maneuver ( against the maddening crowd on weekends when you shop.)
4) Easy to store.(in the car boot, the storage room etc)
5) Invest on a stroller that grows with your child. Saves you $$ from getting another stroller when baby outgrows the old stroller.
6) Check out review site, www.strollersandprams.com for user reviews.
Happy Shopping and Good luck!
First of all, Congratulations on your newborn!!!
These are the criteria on getting a stroller.
Ask yourself these,
1) Are you and your partner have an active lifestyle?
Do you intend to jog around with baby in tow?
2) Do you drive?
3) Is $$$$ an issue or do you have a fixed budget to invest on a good stroller?
I'm gonna suggest something extravagant and stylish yet conventional for a couple, you can check out this website
www.quinny.com
They have the most lightweight, flexible strollers in the market.
Check out how the stroller can be folded to a size of a backpack!
Price wise...Hmm depends if you are willing to fork out some dough. One thing for sure, strollers like those from quinny will make heads turn and more space in your care once it's folded.
Personally I have Quinny Buzz for my baby. I fell in love with it
when I was just 2 months pregnant and I told my husband that Quinny Buzz is The Ultimate Transporter...
If you travel often, get yourself a travel system like the ones they have from GRACO. Check out their website,
www.gracobaby.com
They have matching carseat, 5 point harness and they are lightweight. Plus they have this big basket to put your baby's diaper bag or other stuff you wish to put in. Remember,
always think of your partner when she does her shopping alone without you, make sure she can manage to open the stroller with one hand. Choose strollers that is "one hand hold" for easier handling and that your partner can manage to close or open the stroller on her own.
Remember this pointers
1) Baby is comfortable and safe.
2) Stroller is lightweight and manageable with simple yet useful functions
3) Easy to maneuver ( against the maddening crowd on weekends when you shop.)
4) Easy to store.(in the car boot, the storage room etc)
5) Invest on a stroller that grows with your child. Saves you $$ from getting another stroller when baby outgrows the old stroller.
6) Check out review site, www.strollersandprams.com for user reviews.
Happy Shopping and Good luck!
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